Mujtaba

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Hey Girl you are stronger than me !!!! January 23, 2009

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She met me with a warm smile but soon i could make out how fake it was.

I had known her for almost a decade and she has been really close to me. Last year she went to Gurgaon to work in an automobile company. To cut the long story short she had to face lewd comments and had to fight with perverts to guard her space. As far as i knew her she never believed in the saying ‘ if you can not beat them, join them’.  Therefore she fought, for she always has been a fighter.  After a while she changed her job but was not at all amused by the incedent and was quite disturbed by it.

Last week when i met her she told me story when i pressed her a lot. She asked me a simple question of which i had no answers. She said” Mujtaba,Why is it so tough to be a girl”. I joked and said” Hey i’ve been a boy all my life how can i know” but deep down inside i had no answers, just a helpless silence overpowered me. i felt bad and wished i could help her someway but in this big, bad world i am an insignificant force.

I sometime ponder that with all the degrees and percentages if we cannot learn how to treat a lady then what is the social importance of it.i read about the gender inequality being prevelent in old times, in lesser educated areas but quite lately i realised the fast paced big city people can be far more ugly and henious than we imagined. The world is fake far more cruel to the weaker sex. With all the pain they actually go through this terminology lost its meaning. The fairer sex is actually far more understanding and stronger and no longer deserves to be called a weaker one.But i guess they have always been like this.I salute them.

The world is fast changing but the trials and tribulations of the women remains the same. The trauma that they face makes the face of this world far more ugly . We call ourselves a free nation but how free are we when women,the better half of the population cannot walk with a fearless mind. .Its so easy to be afraid for someone we know and fight with the menace and when its concerned with a girl we dont know then we conveniently become the menace ourselves.i feel I share the guilt myself being a man.It must be quite abrupt for the ladies to go through the searching eyes of strangers everyday. i would have wept out of humiliation but thats what make the women so strong. Thank god I am a man.

There are few ugly things and you cannot do anything about it.Its a shame that your sisters and close friends have to go through all the madness alonebut one could only wish that world can one day will come out of the rags and clutter and transform into a beautiful place for our daughters before its too late.

with a silent prayer…….

 

11 Responses to “Hey Girl you are stronger than me !!!!”

  1. abhay mittal Says:

    oh boy..what a post..such a nice flow!u have provided me with the food for thought!
    really i think a woman’s patience and determination make her much stronger than so called stronger sex! thats why i always believe–that its the man who needs a woman always–as a mother..as a sister..as a friend..as a life partner! they cud still do without us..bt we? no we cannot even imagine our life without women! indeed salute to women!!

    • Mujtaba Says:

      ya abhay you are right….
      great to see the support coming from your side..
      thanks and even your poems provide many thoughts and ideas on which i can write sometime perhaps….

  2. asit dhal Says:

    buddy……sometimes the society becomes a real hell for a girl.

    Sometimes I think isn’t it hard to be a boy ?????Becoz if a boy is exploited, nobody is going to protect him, not even nobody will ever write a blog dedicated to hm !!!!

    buddy humans have made this society unbalanced. We are all diseased.
    but dude you wrote very aptly….the emotions were there for us to see.
    great

  3. chetana Says:

    u got a nice blog here… visit my personal blog at http://chetana0208.blogspot.com/ and my youth group blog on http://youngpragmatists.blogspot.com/

  4. Vinayak Says:

    Really a nice post
    gr8

  5. Mujtaba Says:

    @ asit
    you are dumb…probably you missed the sentiment hidden beneath

    @ chetna
    thanks …i’ll surely do visit both of your blog.

    @ vinayak
    thanks to you as well buddy.

  6. shahamat Says:

    muj i suppose its we who are responsible ….. felt gud dat ur raising such gud topics….. v need 2 understand the fact (and wen i say we, i directly means men) dat women is not a subjugate piece to satisfy our lust ….. she is a mother, sister, a wife….. n yes wid al dese prevelent prejudices and malpractices women has always been stronger than us…… gud going lad…..
    best of luck…you are doing a good job

  7. vikas joshi Says:

    i am surprised yaar……really amazed dat u wrote dis all !!!!!!
    U hav gr8 talent y dont u write some kind of a book….
    i m very lucky dat a get a chance to be 1 of ur friend…i m always thankfull to God fr dis..
    you have a golden heart

  8. Saif Says:

    It has been so long since i visited your blog..seriously u have just made me to think about it..fantastic post

  9. priyank Says:

    hey dear…saw for the 1st time that u write…and that too so welll…truly a nice piece of work..
    and regarding ur topic and content…i think this very nature of some boys/man proves “man is an animal…” shunning the social character…

  10. Nida Says:

    Muj bhaiyya, if only all these people thought your way, it would be much more safe for us. Okay ignore the dirty perverts for a sec; the other day I was watching this programme and the mother in law was like to her daughter in law.. “if you want to stay with us, you have to cook us food, wash our clothes, look after the children (from her husband’s first marriage) otherwise you can go home” … like what the hell?


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